The Chinese tales were like Greek or Roman myths. Most of the stories originated from an unknown factor, fairy tale like. The most bizarre one related to destiny. Husband and wife relationship was believed to be fated by Mr. "To" and Mrs. "Nguyet"
Sorry, I cannot translate it into English. But the story I am going to tell you might explain it better.
Years ago, there was a brother and a sister whose parents were both deceased. They were very poor. The young boy earned some living by going to the wood, collected branches to sell at the market. The sister helped work in the field with the farmers to have some food. One day, after his work, the boy saw an old man sitting by the road absorbing in his work that drew the youngster's attention. The man without looking at the basket, pulled out a piece of red thread with one hand; and another red thread in another basket with the other hand. He then tied them together and he put it in another basket.
-What are you doing, Sir?
-I match husband and wife.
The boy was so curious, still he asked without the intention to know. He was so poor, how could he afford to marry someone.
-So, who is my future wife?
The old man pulled out the red thread in one hand, another red thread in the other hand, tied it together and said:
-You will marry to your sister.
The boy stood up, mad and said:
-It will never happen.
The boy went home. While he was approaching the door, his sister was sitting by the well, preparing dinner. He walked over her, and hit real strong on her head wit his ax. Without looking back, he fled. His sister fell on the ground, dead.
Time went by, the boy became a young, hard working officer for the China King. He got married to his wife who was a daughter of the China governor. One day, coming form work ,he saw his wife was combing her beautiful, long, black hair; looking over her, he saw a big scar on her scalp. He asked for the reason and she answered that the incident happened when she was very young. She did not understand why her brother got mad at her and hit her with the ax that almost killed her. Her parents now were not her biological as she was adopted to this rich family after their daughter died from an illness.
Do not ask me why but almost every Asian countries who are influenced by the Chinese culture, believes that marriage is not a simple matter, it is tied by an inexplicable destiny.
In the next blog, I will explain how you can find your match by following the five basic elements (Water, Fire, Wood, Metal and Earth.)
So long!